"The idea that girls are supposed to stay “pure” is a trap designed to keep you from getting out there and exploring the world—because, you’re told, it will only rough you up, dirty up your soul, sully you, make you less. But learning is not a trap. It means that you’re standing in front of failure and embarrassment and disappointment—and joy, and surprise, and all the good things that come with experience—and you’re ready for them. That you’re not afraid to explore. It means you’re ready to grow up, even when that process scares you. I can’t think of anything braver, stronger, or more badass than that."
Sady from RookieMag
This idea of 'purity' in women is pretty juvenile. Not only by the men in our society, but it has trickled down to the women as well. I can't even count how many times I have heard in the hallways of both my high school and college, and on the street, a random girl saying something along the lines of "yeah, she's fucked like 20 guys already. what a slut." It's ridiculous to think that men came up with this idea in their head that women are supposed to be these inexperienced humans (compared to them) in order to be desirable, and it's even more ridiculous to think that now women think that about each other as well. I feel badly about this because 1) Why are men (and women) so concerned with what is going on in each other's lives (particularly in their sexual lives) to that degree? 2) If inexperience is considered pure, then in actuality shouldn't we all be considered pure in different aspects? Not everyone has experienced everything there is to experience as a living human being on planet earth, and this obviously is the case throughout your entire existence (and beyond depending on what you believe in), so why are only certain experiences more closely associated with the word "pure" or "innocent" than others in our society?
I don't really know where I'm going with this, but these are just a few things I've been thinking lately.